Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Geniuses are assholes

Often, I consider geniuses--mostly because I am not one. The recent articles following Steve Jobs’s death have only added to my on-going fascination. I’ve always been interested in people who have stood out from the crowd and made a mark. Is there such a thing as genius or do the planets align to create the right time and place for a random original thinker? What’s smarts got to do with it?

I wonder these things NOT because I feel that my own genius has gone unnoticed. No, I’m quite comfortable with my average intelligence and abilities. Intelligence is a curse, after all, and I appreciate the limitations that allow me great happiness and peace of mind. I wonder about Asher, however. It’s not that Asher is off-the-charts-smart. He’s academically suitable. But, like Jobs, he’s got a passion for invention and business. And also like Jobs, he sometimes comes across like a square peg in a round-holed world. But unlike Steve Jobs, Asher is inherently a sweet person. I wonder if being nice precludes success.

Take a closer look at Steve Jobs – well not literally because he’s dead and that would be challenging not to mention creepy. There was a guy who marched to the beat of his own drum and Honey Badgered his way through life. He didn’t give a shit that his diet created a ripe pong so offensive that he could only work the night shift at Atari. He couldn’t have cared less about earning a college degree. He chose to audit classes that interested him instead of taking classes that he considered useless. He was socially awkward on a good day and a wanker the rest of the time.


But the guy had the goods. He had vision (many visions after all the acid he dropped) and the business acumen that allowed him to focus on products and designs that would sell. Vision and business sense. Is that genius? Do the two guarantee success?

Over the holidays, a friend invited us to join her and her son on a tour of Thomas Edison’s invention factory. We jumped at the chance to bring Asher to a fellow-inventor’s lab. For a small fee, visitors can take the audio tour around the campus and then take a guided tour of his home a few blocks away.

One of Edison's invention labs

I couldn’t get over how much Edison and Jobs had in common. Neither responded well to conventional education. Neither excelled in social graces. And both of them were as unwashed as they were clever. If they were in the schools today, chances are they would both have been diagnosed with ADHD or Asperger’s or a variety of other social issues. I wondered if social deficiencies actually helped them focus on invention without having to worry about other people’s opinions. I wondered if fitting in prevents a person from standing out.


Asher has identified as an inventor for quite some time now. He loves science and studying how things work. He has an idea for a machine or gadget almost every day and includes a marketing plan with every pitch he makes. He talks about his price point for his inventions and how it will benefit people. He always offers his family mates rates, of course.

Asher’s desire to invent came from a good place. When the major earthquake hit Haiti, Asher was understandably unnerved by the unpreventable, random devastation and death. He vowed to create a helmet that would offer a force field function so powerful that it could repel falling buildings and keep everyone in Haiti safe. When my dad died this summer, Asher decided he would invent a pill that would stop us from ageing. He’s had lots of less-noble ideas, too, but everything he imagines serves a purpose and makes life easier or better.

While Asher may one day go on to invent a useful gadget or two, I don’t know that he’s genius material-or at least not the brand of genius that Edison and Jobs were. Then again, I don’t know that being a genius is all that. I’d love for him to pursue whatever career makes him happy and allows him to support himself. I’d love for him to have a family and good friends and for others to recognize his beautiful and kind spirit. Like Edison and Jobs, Asher may be an inventor, but he’ll never be an asshole. Does being an asshole separate the inventors from the geniuses?


After my unscientific research, I’ve identified the main ingredients in your typical Edison/Jobs genius. You think your kid is a genius? You tell me.

Genius Ingredients: Vision, determination, creativity, fearlessness, business acumen, intelligence, love of learning, disdain for being told what to learn, social disorder(s), bad hygiene, enabling parents.

10 comments:

  1. God, I loved this. So insightful. I have had some of the same thoughts. The greatest geniuses and writers have never "fit in". So maybe fitting in is overrated. And next time we visit I want to go to Edison's lab. And maybe Asher could invent a new cocktail of which you could drink more than a few but never experience a hangover. Could you get him working on that, please?

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  2. I didn't mean to be anonymous. It's me.

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  3. I beg to differ - you ARE a genius. Wikipedia defines genius as "...someone embodying exceptional intellectual ability, CREATIVITY, or ORIGINALITY, typically to a degree that is associated with the achievement of unprecedented insight." As we know if its in Wikipedia it MUST be true!

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  4. Edison's lab was phenomenal. I love me a good audio tour, I have to say. And yes, I think Asher and his parents are up for such a challenge. There may be many nights of failed attempts, but Asher needs to learn that failure is an essential part of success.

    And MB, well, I thank you and Wikipedia for enabling me.

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  5. Hmmm, I always thought genius was being able to solve a problem or create something new in an unusual way. Like that time I added bok choy to Indian spiced ground beef and called it "fusion" food. Can I be super controversial and say that a lot of genuises are probably not book smart because a person has to be kind of an "in the box" thinker to perform well in school. Like that time I got a C average one year in high school. My definitions clearly rely heavily on the justification of my own "mediocre" performances. And gratuitous use of air quotes.

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  6. Hopefully I will not offend when I say that your comment was not in the least bit controversial. Book smarts and in-box thinking are definitely characteristics of the implementer as as opposed to the visionary.

    Your genius is clear when you identify air quotes as plebeian and conciliatory. Well done...as was your fusion dish!

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  7. I often think that about Asperger's and ADD, etc. It seems so obvious that those who are TRUE to themselves and stand OUT from the crowd are those who can truly make change. It can sometimes be challenging to parent a non-conformist child, but at the end of the day, isn't that what we want MOST from our children? Think outside the box, live your destiny, never let others' judgement impact what your truth is! Great post as usual, Deborah!

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  8. ABSOLUTELY, Jan! ...but we also want them to be happy. How do we support their differences without enabling behavior that alienates them from people? As a wise woman told me (and she knows who she is) "you have to live in the world." You know what I mean?

    I am just as fascinated by parents of geniuses as I am by the geniuses themselves. Especially these days, it takes balls to allow your children to be themselves when kids are unkind and teachers and professionals tell you to fix them. Uch. Is it too early to pour a glass of wine?

    But seriously, thanks for your post, Jan! I would like to turn up the volume of my own voice to drown out the voices of others sometimes.

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  9. I don't know if my kid is a genius, but he's definitely a creative thinker and an square peg. He tends toward "inventor" but is more of a creative director at this stage in his life. And like Asher, every idea comes with a design and marketing plan. No wonder they get along so well!

    It's really hard to drown out the voices of others. But try. You know your kid better than anyone. And while it's definitely important that they be able to "live in the world" -- I want my kids to be kind and courteous. NOT assholes. -- I have to remind myself (or more specifically, my inner uptight Southern Protestant) that what it takes for him to be happy living in the world is not the same as it is for me. If he has a close friend or two who like him just the way he is, he doesn't care much what anyone else thinks of his quirks.

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  10. I'm turning up the volume on your voice, Angela. I admire the size of your balls.

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